"She wanted to know who I was because she saw my number on his pager."
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Looking back over the course of my life, I have learned many valuable lessons. The most painful happened during my last relationship. I had been dating this guy for 5 years, we both attended college, and had quite a future together, and I was very close to his family or so I thought. He eventually dropped out of school and became distance and very negative.
This behavior alarmed me, although I knew he was having trouble with his family, alcohol and financially, I stuck by him. Then it happened, the phone call that changed my life for ever. It was a woman who had been seeing him for the last 3 years, and was carrying their 2nd baby, due any day.
She also informed me that they had been living together, she wanted to know who I was because she saw my number on his pager. I thought I would die! I immediately contacted him, he denied it. Then I went over to his mothers and ask her, she admitted it, I couldn't retain myself, I began to cry uncontrollably.
Then to make matters worse, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant, I scheduled an appointment at the clinic for that following week (which I went by my self). The next several months, were extremely hard, all I did was eat and sleep, I stopped going to school, and I gained 50 lbs.
One day, I woke up and it felt like a weight had been lifted off my chest. I returned to school, and started exercising. I had stopped speaking to him and his family, then a year later guess who's at my front door half drunk, looking bad. I have come a long, and have a way to go, but I am finally happy, and have a new friend and a college degree.
--finally starting to heal--